Every human has a set of expectations or hopes, but when they aren't fulfilled it leads to disappointment.
Disappointment is exactly the feeling when things don’t go the way you hoped or expected they would.
All of us feel disappointed due to many reasons, maybe in our relationships with people, disappointed in others, or sometimes even in ourselves, it is surely not an easy feeling to sit with.
Disappointment is an unavoidable emotion that life brings with it like it's complementary. It can push you into a negative funk for days, weeks, or even months. It is a complex emotion that brings along sadness, anger, loss, and frustration. It can hurt you or even make you feel like shit, but in the end, it teaches you a lot, you learn to set your expectation boundaries. Sometimes things do not go the way we want them to, accepting them is very important, you will always be disappointed, but in the end, it is just step one for acceptance.
IS BEING DISAPPOINTED GOOD?
Yes and no.
Disappointment is good and bad for you,
Now that if I explain it, Sometimes disappointments can make us take impulsive decisions and things can become worse than what they already are. You would make a better decision once you have already dealt with it.
If you look at it from a different angle,
Disappointment can also be good, it shows you the places you lack, and it makes sure you know your failures and learns how to fix them. No one becomes successful overnight, failure comes before success and disappointment is again complimentary with failure, Knowing where you are wrong and fixing it, helps you a lot. The best place to look at something a different way is the “valley of disappointment”.
where disappointments feel like they are impossible to deal with, there are a few interesting ways that can help you feel better.
First and the most important thing,
KNOW THAT IT IS COMPLETELY OKAY TO DEAL WITH DISAPPOINTMENT AND THE EMOTIONS IT BRINGS ALONG.
It is completely okay to deal with disappointments, it is natural for you to feel overwhelmed and sad about it, but knowing that you have to accept it is very important. Ignoring or avoiding the emotion might sound easier, but one day or the other you will have to deal with it so why not sooner.
HAVE THE RIGHT MINDSET FOR ACCEPTANCE
You can get through disappointments only if you keep the right mindset throughout the process. So from this disappointment, you can align your expectations with reality with a positive mind. Know that you have to accept what happened and move on. Now I know how easy it is to say so, but acceptance is the only key to getting over disappointments.
DON’T LET DISAPPOINTMENT TAKE OVER
One of the most important things is that you do not let disappointment take over your emotions. Disappointment brings negative emotions, that if taken over can cause some serious mental health issues. It is very important for you to practice exercises that keep you in a positive mindset. Journaling, talking to someone you trust, being around positive people, sometimes you might feel you want to be alone while you are disappointed but the truth is you just want to be found.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR PHYSICAL HEALTH
Physical and mental health are co-related, if your mental health is not okay it will eventually start to affect you physically and visa-versa. It is very important to give yourself time and take care of yourself. Regular workouts and having a balanced diet are very important it will eventually make you feel better about yourself and start to heal you. ALWAYS GIVE YOURSELF TIME!
Last but not the least is,
KNOWING YOURSELF AND YOUR HEART
One problem with emotions is that they can derail our visions of ourselves. We start to feel insecure and doubt ourselves which is again completely normal but one’s sense of self can be weakened when disappointments decide to show up, Here all I always would do and say is, know your own values and principles and follow them. Again I know how easy it is to say, but once you regularly start to practice it you will realize how beautifully it will boost your self-esteem.
Disappointments can really be hurtful at times, they can make you feel worthless and insecure but what is important to remember is that you matter more than anything, every human learns from their mistakes, and you become the person you are by experiencing and learnings, disappointments are just another part of learning from our mistakes. Knowing what our expectations should be, teaches you how to finally draw a line, yes when they can be so hurtful they will also turn you into the most beautiful person and it will help you grow. So let them come your way and when they do deal with them, know that it is a part of life and one day it will make you a beautiful person.
HAPPY HEALING
Author: Sumati Grover
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